Lady Gaga makes a strong female presents in today's pop culture. I few months ago the song "The Cure" became popular on radio. When I first heard it without really listening to it, I thought it was a great song, had a great beat and I love when she belts out "I will be right by your side!" but once I realized what the song was about I became gravely disappointed.
The chorus goes:
If I can't find the cure, I'll
I'll fix you with my love
No matter what you know, I'll
I'll fix you with my love
And if you say you're okay
I'm gonna heal you anyway
Promise I'll always be there
Promise I'll be the cure (be the cure)
I'll fix you with my love
No matter what you know, I'll
I'll fix you with my love
And if you say you're okay
I'm gonna heal you anyway
Promise I'll always be there
Promise I'll be the cure (be the cure)
I was driving with my nieces and "The Cure" came on the radio. Of course I had to have the conversation, we can't fix people with love. We can love people, but if they don't want to be fixed we can't cure them. Sometimes I wonder if they listen to me, so any time we hear "The Cure," they get the speech all over again. When we were in Hawaii, there was a gecko with a broken tail, one of my nephews was trying to catch it, and I mentioned we will take him in and love it. Cate quickly replied, "Missy you said we can't fix anyone." Well.... they do listen and it's close enough for me!
Recently I had a gentleman I was crushing on over, we had a great conversation about life. Without going into detail, he told me he saw some rough stuff growing up and as a result doesn't show sadness. The Melissa five years ago would have been, hot dang I can "cure" him and love the hurt right out of him. Instead I saw red flags, sirens even and while I tried to pretend I didn't see it, he was very handsome and smart, I couldn't do it. When he left, as disappointed as I was, I knew we were not a fit.
There are a lot of young ladies and women listening to this song. It took heartache to know I can't cure anyone. In the midst of trying to fix men of past relationships I would lose myself and what I stood for. They weren't asking me to fix them, I saw the tangled webs as a challenge, my love is different and it would cure them. It was a hard lesson to learn.
I can't always physically be there with my nieces when they make choices, but my hope is they listen to my experience. As life is, they will fall and it will break my heart, I want them to know I will be there to listen and not cure.
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