A couple of months ago I had the courage to do something I have always wanted to do..... I took myself on a date. I got dressed up and went to dinner alone. I wanted to try one of Des Moines new restaurants, one Saturday evening I was at home by myself and I decided I was going to take this brave step. Some reading this may think people do this all the time, what's the big deal? Well for me it's one thing alone I have not concurred.
Being single I have done many things by myself; living for one, rsvping for one, shopping for one, cooking for one, but I hadn't experience a table for one. I was nervous, more nervous than going on a first date. I am one of those weird people who like first dates. I would rather go on a hundred first dates than go on a date by myself. I put on my dress and wedges, walked down 4th Street with my head held high and walked into Vivian's.
I was greeted by the owner, I felt like I need to explain myself. I told him table for one, I have been wanting to try out this restaurant so I thought I would do it alone. He said something like "we are happy you decided to come here." He sat me down at a booth, and took a deep breath. My waitress came up and introduced herself. I felt compelled to indulge her with my story, first time dinning alone, ordered a cabernet sauvignon, and soaked in my surroundings.
I took out my book, a friend recommended I bring a book to read, and it was hard for me to relax. I am a social person, so to be out in a restaurant by myself made me uneasy. After I had a glass of wine I was able to relax, again taking some deep breaths, I was able to embrace the moment.
The food and wine were delicious, the service was fabulous. In some weird way I thought I was going to be judged, but I was judging myself. Once I fully took in the accomplishment I was making the more at ease I became, it was a proud moment for me. I encourage you to do something that makes you uncomfortable because where there is discomfort there is growth.
I went back a couple of weeks ago to Vivian's with my mother. Again when we walked in we were greeted by the owner. He said, "Welcome back, I'll seat the two of you in your booth." I was flattered he remembered me, and flattered to think I have a booth at Vivian's.
